Two sides of A4 to summarise the years together, explain the background of your relationship, your concerns and tell the court what you hope to achieve. Yet when there are allegations flying you just want the chance to be heard.

The Court decides whose truth is the truth with a lower burden of proof than criminal court. I am a ‘litigant in person’ just me and google v the world. She has full legal representation. I could get representation if I gave up my job but that would harm our children more and am desperate to put them first throughout.

You send in a statement which is honest, compassionate and states your position, terrified what will read when hers drops through your front door.

CAFCASS converts two 30 minute phone calls into court recommendations.

CAFCASS summarise your two phone calls and make recommendations to the court. They are the voice of the children. Easy if they are ten, a nightmare if they are toddlers kept away from their dad.

The most important 30 minutes of your life…

You get 30 minutes to tell them about the children, the other parent and any safeguarding concerns you have. You get to explain about any alcohol or substance abuse, domestic abuse, children’s services and police involvement and what you want from the court. Then you wait . Seven days later Your world falls apart as you realise how much she hates you and find out if she will be telling the truth.